The Death of Boredom vs. Bored to Death

I worry about my grandchildren, specifically, and our youngest generation of students, generally, and their overall inability to accept boredom into their lives.  Without boredom, how will they think? 

When I was a child, my mother and father expected me to rake, shovel, dust, and do a whole host of very boring things.  Yet, while I did these chores, my mind was active.  As a duster, I remember ‘staging’ commercials in my mind.  I could dramatically wave my hands and ad lib about my streak-free shine and Pledge’s ability to bring out the natural beauty of the wood.  As I got older, I used the boring times, such as walking home from field hockey practice or washing dishes at Friendlies, to problem-solve the ‘major’ issues in my young life.  I ran scenarios; I pre-scripted upcoming events (as in, I’ll say this, and then he’ll say that, and then I’ll say…); I made plans, both for the weekend … and for the future.  Even now, when I’m driving home to Massachusetts or gardening in the backyard, my mind is active.  Boredom is important to my mental processes.  Boredom is where I reminisce about the past and sift through new opportunities, ideas, and solutions.  Boredom leads to a clear mind.  A clear mind leads to creativity.

The problem I see in my beloved and beautiful grandchildren is their desire to fill every moment with activity and their complete uneasiness with ‘boredom.’  If we are waiting for a table in a restaurant, riding the escalator in the mall, or even standing in the kitchen, waiting for the toast to pop up, they are texting or playing a quick game of ‘Draw Something.’   In the back seat of the car, they have headsets on, cutting them off from both conversation and observation. 

They call it multi-tasking, but they watch TV and are on their computers or cell phones at the same time making even TV-watching less cerebral (if that’s possible!), because they aren’t processing either the facial expressions or the dialogue.  If you ask them a thought question about the show, they respond, ‘I don’t know. Why?’ as if thinking about the story-line was absurd. 

I love them dearly, but I worry that I never, ever hear them complain ‘I’m bored;’ and as a result, I never, ever get to say, ‘Well, think of something to do.’

For more information about kids, creativity, and boredom, check out:

Aha! Parenting's "Why Boredom is Good for Your Child"

Essential Kids'  "The Battle to Let Them Be Bored"

 

 

 

 

Schools and the Social Networking Terrain

I don't think social media is getting any easier to navigate.  There's a lot of information circling amongst my peers purporting the merits of 'going social' by creating a district Facebook page or by joining the ranks of the 'twittering Superintendents' ... or by doing both, since each has its separate merits. 

 

Racing through my head lately is that piece of professional advice, coupled with a nagging fear that Orange isn't doing enough to make our kids as cybersmart as they should be before hitting middle school, ... and tripled by this information I just read this week:  Author Emily Bazelon wrote an article in The Atlantic detailing how an anonymous student created a Facebook page called "let's Start Drama" at a Middletown, Connecticut, middle school and used the page to bully her fellow students.  She called herself simply 'Drama Queen.'   Bazelon writes, “She hovered over them in cyberspace like a bad fairy, with the power to needle kids into ending friendships and starting feuds and fistfights… Wrapped in her cloak of anonymity, she was free to pass along cruel gossip without personal consequences.  She started by posting a few idle rumors, and when that gained her followers, she asked them to send her private messages relaying more gossip, promising not to disclose the source. Which girl had just lost her virginity? What boy had asked a girl to sext him a nude photo?” Before long, Drama Queen had an audience of 500, many of whom had follow-up comments on the rumors. She pitted students against each other by posting side-by-side photos of girls and asking who was hotter and photos of boys asking, “Who would win a fight?”  It turns out that after investigating, the middle school turned up 12 other pages of the same ilk.

 

Any parent and educator would find this scenario scary.  She had 500 like-minded participants -- or, at least voyeurs into this dehumanizing world she had created?  

 

In my mind, we should be teaching our children to be exactly the same person on-line as they are in person... they should be the same person they are when they walk the corridors of the school... and the streets of any new city they visit.  If they wouldn't go up to other classmates, in person, and call them names or say cruel things, then they shouldn't do it online either.  If they wouldn't walk up to a stranger in the mall and hand that stranger a picture of themselves in their underwear, then they shouldn't 'sext' that picture, or post it online, either.  There's something about the 'artificiality' of social media that has stripped us of the basic sensibilities we know to be true in our daily interactions with 'real' people.  It's as if in the social media arena we aren't 'responsible' for what we say in the same way we are responsible for ourselves in public. 

 

In the Bazelton article, she talks about two 'organizations' who are tackling the cruelty of cyberbullying; one is BullySpace and the other is Anonymous (yes! that same controversial vigilante group).  Both are using artificial intelligence and algorithms to detect bullying language and posts and then targeting those message posters with pop-ups which read anything from, "That was nasty! Wait 60-seconds before you post!" to expletive-driven, 'What gives you the right!' messages.  Facebook, who reports that kids would rather be expelled from school than expelled from Facebook, has started shutting down offensive pages.  But, in truth, they are coming late to the party!

 

If you haven't already, it's not too late to talk to your pre-teen about social media and what your expectations are for his or behavior in that arena as well as in public.  We can't assume that they are naturally transferring those values, and the consequences for mistakes can be devastating.  Often, when cyberbullies are caught, or when a community finds out about a bullying page and lashes out at the kids who started it, the kids are shocked.  They say they 'were only trying to have some fun!'  They claim they 'didn't know anyone would be hurt by it!'  They rationalize 'it's not like it was real or anything!'

 

It's not easy to navigate, and it's real!

         

Do Kindergarteners Love Their SmartBoards?

On Wednesday, February 8th, I had the pleasure of being the "mystery reader" in Mrs. Kerry Wetmore's kindergarten class. First, the children and I talked about feelings: what makes us happy or sad or angry, or as one young kindergartener mentioned, 'anxious is a feeling'! Then I read one of my favorite children's books, Today I Feel Silly & Other Moods that Make My Day, by Jaime Lee Curtis. We had a wonderful time together, talking about the message and looking at Laura Cornell's fabulous illustrations.
When I arrived at Mrs. Wetmore's door, the students had been in the middle of a SmartBoard lesson, taking turns dragging and dropping beginning letters into place to make the word depicted in the lesson. The ending combination was __OG, and, when the picture was a 'log', the children were eager to have a turn moving the L; then, the D to make 'dog' and the FR to make 'frog.'
After I read my story, I stayed to watch the children and Mrs. Wetmore finish their morning meeting, again using the SmartBoard. Mrs. Wetmore had three incomplete sentences on the board: "Today is ___. Yesterday was ___. Tomorrow will be ___." One student correctly dragged and dropped 'Wednesday' into place. A second student hopped up, chose 'Tuesday,' and with her finger moved that word to correctly complete her sentence. The next student chose 'Friday' to complete the last sentence -- perhaps, wishful thinking! Every child was paying attention, and together they kindly helped him put 'Friday' back and move 'Thursday' into place
What impressed me, and what I want to confirm to you, is this: every hand was up, every student wanted a turn. The power of interactive technology to engage students is undeniable. Could the students do the same activity on a worksheet by circling the word 'Wednesday' and drawing a line to the correct sentence? Sure they could! Would they be as engaged? Not likely.

I really must commend all of the various people in Orange who had a hand in bringing the SmartBoard technology into our classrooms -- from those of you who advocated for SmartBoards to those who raised money to purchase them to the BOE who recently voted to complete the project to those teachers and paraprofessionals who trained and implemented the lessons. This was a community effort and everyone deserves congratulations. The children are appreciative! I didn't need to ask them to see that they were feeling 'excited'!

Now, our next steps are purchasing the student responder systems, which allow 100% of the students to answer a question with a hand-held responder, and document cameras, which project any piece of paper or even 3-dobject onto the SmartBoard for study.

To loosely quote Bill Owens: When it comes to technology, if we're not constantly moving forward, then, without a doubt, we're moving backwards.